Inevitability just means that something WILL happen, and many of those items are absolutely inevitable:
AI exists -> vacation photos exist -> it's inevitable that someone was eventually going to use AI to enhance their vacation photos.
As one of those niche power users who runs servers at home to be beholden to fewer tech companies, I still understand that most people would choose Netflix over a free jellyfin server they have to administer.
> Not being in control of course makes people endlessy frustrated
I regret to inform you, OP, that this is not true. It's true for exactly the kind of tech people like us who are already doing this stuff, because it's why we do it. Your assumption that people who don't just "gave up", as opposed to actively choosing not to spend their time on managing their own tech environment, is I think biased by your predilection for technology.
I wholeheartedly share OP's dislike of techno-capitalism(derogatory), but OP's list is a mishmash of
1) technologies, which are almost never intrinsically bad, and 2) business choices, which usually are.
An Internet-connected bed isn't intrinsically bad; you could set one up yourself to track your sleep statistics that pushes the data to a server you control.
It's the companies and their choices to foist that technology on people in harmful ways that makes it bad.
This is the gripe I have with anti-AI absolutists: you can train AI models on data you own, to benefit your and other communities. And people are!
But companies are misusing the technology in service of the profit motive, at the expense of others whose data they're (sometimes even illegally) ingesting.
Place the blame in the appropriate place. Something something, hammers don't kill people.